The Cynic

A faultfinding captious critic;
One who believes that human conduct is motivated wholly by self-interest;

Incidents & experiences in our lives may make us cynic at times. Broken hearts and lost trust, lost confidence and shattered faith. However big or small these incidents may be, they make an impact in defining who we are and what we believe in.
...Is everyone out there to get you?
...Are humans really good at heart?
...Does everyone want something from you?
...Are there selfless people in this world apart from you?

I believe that good and bad events tend to average out in life. Of course some people have a better luck than others but that is equivalent of having additional icing on your share of the cake.
The key point here is to keep a positive attitude and look out for those good times.
...Times when people have been selfless.
...When people have given up their interest for the greater good of others.
...For times when a strangers have helped you when you were in trouble.
...For times when people have loved you without expectations.

Merry Christmas!!

Friends...

Many years ago there started a series on the television by the name "Friends". Most of you reading this post would have seen it. It was a comedy, meant for entertainment and fun.
Did it manage to depict what friends are like in reality? Have a look at the relationship you share with your friends and then compare it with what you saw on Friends. I am sure Friends did manage to depict many finer points in friendship over the long years that it lasted. But did it really depict true friendship? Which brings us to another question and a more relevant one, as this post is not intended to be a review of the tv series "Friends".

The question being "What is friendship?"
Among the many people we meet in our lives, some end up being friends. There has to be some factor that differentiates your friends from others. But surprisingly, many different people end up being friends to one single person. This makes it all the more difficult to identify that common factor that brings some closer than others. And if that were not enough, there are some people who are closer friends to us than others.
I doubt if anyone has had the same group of friends since we were young. People keep entering and exiting our friendship. This process is dynamic and perpetually in progress. This explains why some people are closer to us than others. As you make or loose friends, your extent of friendship with those people varies.

Someone told me other day that he can only have a few friends in his life at a given time. To me it sounds kinda odd, coz friendship is not something you can plan and decide upon. The moment you do so, its no longer friendship but becomes a compromise or a contract. At least from your end if not the other. You cannot control the number of friends you have.

Another pitfall occurs is believing that people who you know well are your friends. An important point to note is that knowing someone could well be incidental. Your situation and circumstances will bring you close to many people. You will get to know many of them, but you may not necessarily make friends with them.

I believe that the baisc component of a good friendship is trust. If two people have mutual trust, they can be friends. This does not necessarily mean that they will end up being friends as there are many other external factors that impact the existence of friendship. But trust is the basic element needed. Similarly, if trust is broken among friends, friendship crumbles.

Love.... The lost cause?

Singles....
Looking for love.

Suitors....
Wondering what all would they would do for love.

Couples....
Bitching about their so-called love.

Relationships....
Breaking up after years of love

Lovers
Forever in love

Meet any individual and you will find love reflecting in his/her life. Its not necessary for love to be present in his/her life..... A single person is looking for love..... Another pursuing love wonders whether his/her love would be reciprocated...... One in a relationship thinks about where the love is headed...... While another in a relationship wonders if love was ever there..... And those you have lost love, crying for that love.

Does love still exist... Yes
Are we making it easy to exist... No
Something as simple as love has been made so complex in this 21st century.
While I discussed this with a friend of mine we wondered since where did this entire concept of dating, going out etc come up from.... and does it make finding love any easier? Or has made the whole process much more complex.... adding expectations to what was supposed to be
unconditional love.

What do you think? Is Love the lost cause?

You hold me...

You hold me...
Much longer than your partner...
I know what you mean when you move your hand over me...
When you pull me towards yourself... or push me farther away....
When you press your fingers firmer than usual...
No words are needed.... just a gentle touch...
I feel special...

But then one day, you are rough with me...
I feel sick.... something does not feel right...
You get rougher..... and swear at me...
I feel worse... find it hard to continue like this...
This is the end...
And you say... "Damn!!! The stupid mouse stopped working"